All About Men -A New List 

 My darling friend Randy is a big fan of my silly lists so this is for her and all you men out there. I must confess these are my favorite kind and it’s about time I did a new one.

What Women Wished Men Knew

1. We don’t like mixed signals. Mixed drinks on the other hand

2. Don’t walk ahead of us. Walk with us and hold our hand. 

3. Chocolate and jewelry will get you out of a world of trouble

4. The kitchen counter, up against a wall, on your desk are great places to place knickknacks or if you can think of something better to do with the aforementioned, we’d be totally down for that

5. Sometimes we cry. Deal with it

6. If were having sex with you, odds are we care, so proceed cautiously when it comes to our feelings

7. When we talk, listen. Yes, with your ears and with your heart and mind

8. Sometimes being romantic just means being there and in the moment

9. Don’t be afraid of that universal, wonderful little four letter word… 


10. You are unique and special but Beyoncé sums ir up best. Don’t you ever get to thinking


It’s Only Life


It was weeks of those days
when my head was on fire.

My heart was enclosed by
high gate, overrun by bramble

And even the fabric of my dress
rubbed me the wrong way.

Every one of my fingers longed
for the same thing, a neck to
curl around.

My legs fragile beneath me
knelt in the grass

Clarity came when I lifted my
cloak of blue.

The petty things will mean
nothing when death claims
our last breath.

We’ll lie down in the green
with the ants.

And watch as they tirelessly
push the crumbs around

-Tosha Michelle

Selective or Picky?

In a totally different vein than my usual posts, let’s talk about the ideal partner, what do you look for in a significant other.

Here’s my laundry list. I think i may be too picky.

1. Tall. Height is my one superficial quirk. He can be bald and chunky just not short. Hypocritical since I’m only 5’2 but it’s nonnegotiable
2. He must be loyal, intelligent, kind but not meek. Sense of humor is a must. I need someone who can make me laugh
3. Slightly nerdy but artsy
4. Must like my two daughters
5. A meat eater. No vegans or vegetarians
6. Must love to travel and go out but also happy to just stay ar home and cuddle on the couch
7. Must be able to understand the friendship and living arrangement between myself and my daughters dad
8. Liberal minded and urban
9. Affectionate and loving
10. Lastly, he must treat me like a mother effin princess 😜

oh and he has to treat my rock star cat like a princess or in this case a primce too

Blank Canvas 

I’m removing you
from my life’s canvas.
The revision’s long overdue.
I’m tired of only speaking
to you through our eyes.
All I can feel now
is the strain.
I’m moving our sky back
until it is blank.
It was always
underpainted anyway.
I’m not sure how
to undo the hue of blue
that defines our shorelines.
Your kisses more addictive
than a half-off sale at Godiva.
I’m so tired of decadent chocolate
filled with empty calories
The promise of sweetness but
only tasting the bitter.
I’m ready to paint my life
in a soothing hue.
To find something solid
to hang my artwork on.
To find a fragrant of grace,
to rest in the background
of peace for a while.
I’m ready for lackadaisical afternoons,
the smell of magnolias,
a bed full of decadence,
sweet tea renderings.
You are no longer my concern.
You’re the novel
to be put away,
a one-off read
I read with half-closed eyes.
You are the car
I drove away.
The abrupt end of an utterance
to be forgotten.
If you were to ever ask me
to belong to you again
the answer would be no,
even if you came to me
with mint julep cocktail,
jazz notes, and honey.
You can’t repaint our canvass,
There’s no way to right it.
It no longer exist.

-Tosha Michelle

Those Three Little Words

Every time love has visited me it has been accompanied by a death spirit. Leaving behind the chill of isolation. Yet, I know I have been blessed to love, to have loved.  After heartache, after lesson learned in tears, the chest becomes less tight, the soreness fades.

I long to look at love in a new way, while standing in its light, to be caught in its sight, to gaze up and see Orion shining.  to be joined in a long continuance. The hard candies of granite and bone. I long to live alongside love in the fervor of hope, in the heard, seen, and finally fathomable power of a soul held in place.

I want to feel the brush of love’s tenderness,  to remember the constellations I once dreamed upon. I long for a vocabulary built on the promise of truth, in a world where I know the language like I know home, residing on a strong foundation that can  prevail in the sweetness of the summer harvest and in the noon frost of winter. 

Give me a love I can dwell in. I’ve had it with uninhabitable beauty. I desire a place thar suits me, a place to rest where I can finally tear the footbridge down

Tosha Michelle

Sunshine Blogger Award

Thanks to Alex for the nomination. if you get a chance check out his blog and follow. He’s like the male version of me only British and much cooler


Post the award on your blog.
Thank the person who nominated you.
Answer the 11 questions they set you.
Pick another 11 bloggers.
Give them 11

1. Which literary character would you most like to be?

Anne Shirley, from Anne of Green Gables. It was one of my favorite books growing up. I really identified with the talkative, imaginative girl she was. i’m also a huge romantic and prone to mischief and bouts of insecurity

2. Which TV character do you find most inspiring?

Olivia Benson from Law and Order  SVU The character is tenacious, brave, principled and strong

3. If you could choose one specific drink to make healthy which would you choose?

chocolate mint milkshake

4. Which actor/actress did you think would become more famous but faded away?

Neve Campbell. She seemed to really be going places

5. What was the first album you bought/downloaded? When did you last listen to it?

Whitney Houston. It was a birthday gift. It was her first album. I remember listening to it religiously as a kid.  I haven’t listened to it in ages, but I should. Her voice was beyond amazing. It was truly devastating when she died

6. Which famous mystery do you wish you could know the answer to?

I’d like to know who the zodiac killer is

7. Have you ever had a film ruined by a bad cinema experience?

Not that I can recall

8. Which family member are you most like and why?

My mother. We are both beautifully complex. I also like to think I have her sense of humor and style. She’s always been ultra hip

9. What’s the most disappointed you’ve been with a film adaption from a book?

I really didn’t think the 50 shades movie truly captured the brilliance of the book. I’m kidding. Seriously, I didn’t like either adaptation of Wuthering Heights

10.Which famous person do you wish could live next door to you?

Jon Stewart. However, he would probably get a restraining order against me.  I’d be trying to hang out with him all the time 

11. What would your dream profession be?

Broadway star

My nominees
Tony, aka in love with Jersey

My questions

1. why did you start blogging?
2. what authors inspire you?
3. if you were a mixed drink, what would you be?
4. how would you describe yourself in three words?
5. if you or Alice in Wonderland, would you stay there or come back and tell the story?
6. are you more like fire or ice?
7. what’s your favorite quote?
8. milk chocolate or dark?
9. what’s your idea of a perfect day?
10. if you could live in any other country, where would you choose?
11. what’s your favorite movie? Why?