In honor of suck up to your love day which happens tomorrow, I give you a list. You’d rather have jewlery? Same!
Things I’ve Learned From Relationships
1. Always be yourself if you can’t be who you are with your partner, what’s the point? If you feel you have to be something you’re not to gain your significant other’s affection then this is a huge red flag
For me that means being my awkward, weird and random self.
2. You deserve to be appreciated and treated well. Never be anyone’s afterthought, second choice, or stand in. You are amazing and should be treated as such
Seriously, do not put up with neglect. Ani’t nobody got time for that.
3. Love isn’t like the movies, at least after the endrpohins wear off. Love is a choice. It’s an action. If you base your relationship on feelings, you’ll end up being disappointed or looking for the next emotional high. Feelings come and go, but real love endures and it is a conscious effort
Sometimes love is more like a day at the dentist or a walk off a cliff
4. Compromise. It’s not always about you. Consider your partner’s needs and be willing to meet them halfway.
It’s mostly about what I want though. Kidding
5. Lies and withholding information have no place in a good relationship. Honesty is fundamental along with being able to communicate in a healthy way. Your partner should be your best friend, greatest cheerleader, and your reality check
Nobody wants just a yes man in their lives unless they have egos like eggs
6. Having things in common is important and being able to blend your lives together.
Differences can be fun too.
7. Being loved and validated is everything. You need to feel like you matter and are a priority. The person you’re with should make you feel secure and cherished everyday
Everyday.. even on Super Bowl Sunday.
8. Sometimes, love hurts There will always be disappointments that crop up and growing pains as you and your partner go through your life together. This pain can serve to teach you how to love your partner better
Or how to love someone else better the next time
9. Love goes much deeper than sexual gratification. Sex can be a wonderful way to express love, but shouldn’t be the only way, or the lychpin that holds the relationship together. If you build your partnership on the physical alone, it will crumble. The superficial will never last Take time to connect on a deeper level, one that is emotional and spiritual.
Sex is natural. Sex is cool, but you can find it anywhere.
10. Sometimes relationships end no matter how much love and work you put into them. People change. Circumstances shift and hearts grow cold. It’s a sad, but the most important lesson I’ve learned is never give up, never stop trying. Love will come again.
In the meantime, there’s always books, chocolate, BOB and lists!