I Cried.


I swear I am not as angst filled as my poetry might suggest. 🙂

I Cried.

I cried for you.

Drenching my pillow.

Liquid fragments of a broken soul.

They left a trail from my heart to my cheek.

so much angst and sorrow.

a ballad of a dark kind of madness.

Tears falling down.

Each drop a cadence of gut wrenching pain.

The reverberation of nothing and everything.

Crashing down.

In a crescendo of grief.

Leaving me mute.

My version of “Clean”


Miss. Nothing

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1. Real beauty- the kind you find in museums and great literature- is eternal. True beauty comes from the soul and touches the spirit. Note  to all the jerks out there- it’s not about cup size or the shape of the thighs. It’s about the condition of the heart and the state of the mind.

2.Pet peeve- Fickle people who are only interested in the next best thing. Human beings are not expendable. Sincerity and genuine affection carry much more weight than false flattery.  I don’t understand having an ADD-like mindset when it comes to friendship. End rant. Cue silliness.

3. Do people who use the expression “cray cray” know how “stew stew” they sound? (ugh)

4. What’s up with the smiles, Pepperidge Farm’s Goldfish? We are so going to eat you! Cue philosophical thought

5. Don’t wait on people to love you. Lead the way. Be a compass of kindness and compassion.

7. The authentic you is beautiful. If you want to impress, be yourself. Trust me, “realness” is a precious commodity. I strive to always be genuine (at times, to my detriment)

8. Speak your truth. Love without conditions. Live without limitations. Count your blessings. Life is fleeting.

9. If you can’t be polite, kindly keep you mouth shut. Manners matter.

10. On Monday, I get to speak to one of my favorite intellectuals- Author and Philosopher -Professor, Mark Kingwell The nerd in me can’t wait.. He doesn’t have a pretentious bone in his body. Mark a true delight to listen to. It’s going to be a fun and illuminating hour. (stoked)

Tune in here:


Miss. Nothing.

Final Thoughts:

The mark of a true rebel (to me) is a person who fights against apathy, who embraces their humanity and looks beyond the surface. It easy to be mean spirited, selfish, materialistic, and shallow. It takes heart and tenacity to embrace traits like honesty, integrity, compassion, kindness, and loyalty.

It’s not about taking the moral high ground. No one is better than anyone else. We don’t all have to believe a certain way or be a certain way. But it sure would be nice if everyone could embrace love, forget about hate, and learn to live in harmony. Hey, a girl can dream. By the way, my rebel wears a suit, smells like Dior, and is handy with a wrench, a pen, and frying pan.

Anyway, gather round, children. Let’s all hold hands and sing a rousing rendition of Kumbayah.

Ten Things Women Wished Men Knew. (from the Dear Men files)

I tend to be either deeply philosophical or deeply silly. I’ll let you decide where my mood falls tonight.

Dear Men,

I know you live for my letters. The tips that just keep on giving. In that vein, I present my latest top ten list. Take notes.

1. We women like to be taken but not in a way that requires our fathers to bring out their particular set of skills. You know the ones they have acquired over their long career. No, we want be taken up against the wall, on the kitchen counter, on your desk, etc. We love to feel wanted and desirable.

2. Pet names can be very sweet. However, don’t make them too cutesy. There’s nothing sexy about being called Kissy Kibbles, Schnookums or Licky Sticky Poo.

3. It is never appropriate to call us a bit** or by your ex-girlfriend’s name.

4.You don’t fake foreplay. We won’t fake an orgasm.

5. Ladies first. See number 4.

6. There’s something extremely sexy about a man who can recite Shakespeare while listening to Bach as he fixes a leaky pipe.

7. Be romantic. Note, sometimes being romantic simply means doing the laundry.

8. Listen to us, dam*it

9. You’re adorable when you are shaving, driving, being kind to your mother, holding a baby. etc.

10. Love us. Respect us. Protect us. Do us.


Dear Men (this one’s for you)

Dear Men,

It’s been awhile since I wrote. In my last letter, I praised you, criticized you, and gave you a few pointers. This note will be no different. See the list that follows.

Tips and dips. You’re welcome.

1.   Love us for our hearts and minds, and we’ll rock you with our bodies.
2.   Tears are not a sign of weakness. It’s OK to be sensitive (unless you’re crying because you have nothing to wear, or you missed a real housewives episode)
3.   There are two places tighty whities belong, on babies, or in the trash.
4.   The vacuum cleaner and mop will not bite you.  Go ahead, try them on for size. I dare you.
5.   Sometimes all we need to hear is “No, honey, let me do it.”
6.   Cologne is sexy, but no need to bathe in it.
7.   A kiss on the hand at the right time can be quite lovely, at the wrong time, equally as creepy.
8.   By all means be the man in the relationship when it comes to killing bugs, or opening jars. We don’t mind.
9.   However, never tell us what to do. EVER!
10.  We want to be your muses but not in a sleazy photographer kind of way. We long to bring out your inner Shakespeare, not Larry Flynt
11.  Withhold nothing. We need to know where all the carbon go, and why prime numbers remain a mystery. I’m looking at you, Riemann hypothesis.  Why is it all so weird? Oh and everyone you have ever dated, and what you had for lunch, and how your day was, and what your brother said on the phone. Etc.
12.  Your mother was right, manners matter. Prove to us chivalry is not dead.
13.  Please don’t tell us to calm down. You calm down!
14.  I mentioned this last time but felt the need to reiterate, no, we do not want to see a picture of the little engine that could.
15.    Just because your friends might find us appealing, doesn’t mean we want to to be with them. (unless your friends are Timothy Olyphant or Jon Stewart)
16.  Please talk about your feelings. We want to know what’s going on in those heads of yours. However, we don’t have to have a come to Jesus meeting  or an Oprah moment.
17.  Douchebaggerty is never a winning look. Wear compassion and humanity instead.
18.  There’s nothing hotter than a man with tools, unless, it’s a man with a book.
19.  We like wearing your old college sweatshirt or sleeping in your t-shirt. Prepare to share. It makes us feel close to you.
20.  All we need is affection, attention, love, chocolate  and a guy with a big…………………………………………………………….


Until, next time gents,



PS. This guy is sexy.


As an aside, I’m obsessed with this song. Yes, I am channeling my inner 16 year old. No judgement, please.

Taylor Swift “Wildest Dreams” lyrics

He said let’s get out of this town
Drive out of the city
Away from the crowds
I thought heaven can’t help me now
Nothing lasts forever
But this is gonna take me down
He’s so tall, and handsome as hell
He’s so bad but he does it so well
I can see the end as it begins my one condition is

Say you’ll remember me
Standing in a nice dress, staring at the sun set babe
Red lips and rosy cheeks
Say you’ll see me again even if it’s just in your wildest dreams
Wildest dreams

I say no one has to know what we do
His hands are in my hair, his clothes are in my room
And his voice is a familiar sound, nothing lasts forever
But this is getting good now
He’s so tall, and handsome as hell
He’s so bad but he does it so well
And when we’ve had our very last kiss
But my last request is

Say you’ll remember me
Standing in a nice dress, staring at the sun set babe
Red lips and rosy cheeks
Say you’ll see me again even if it’s just in your wildest dreams
Wildest dreams

You see me in hindsight
Tangled up with you all night
Burn it down
Some day when you leave me
I bet these memories hunt you around
You see me in hindsight
Tangled up with you all night
Burn it down
Some day when you leave me
I bet these memories follow you around

Say you’ll remember me
Standing in a nice dress, staring at the sun set babe
Red lips and rosy cheeks
Say you’ll see me again even if it’s just pretend

Say you’ll remember me
Standing in a nice dress, staring at the sun set babe
Red lips and rosy cheeks
Say you’ll see me again even if it’s just in your wildest dreams
Wildest dreams
Even if it’s just in your wildest dreams
In your wildest dreams

10 Compliments We Women Never Tire of Hearing


10 Compliments We Women Never Tire of Hearing

1.   I love your Jimmy Choo shoes.

(Payless actually, but thanks.)

2.   You’ve lost weight.

(My winter clothes work wonders.)

3.   You’re a culinary master.

(I call my technique take out.)

4.   You’re a natural beauty.

(Thanks. It took me an hour to perfect this look.)

5.   Are you a dancer?

(My best move is tripping up the stairs.)

6.   I could listen to you talk for hours.

(Good, because I have a litany of items to discuss.)

7.   You’re so witty.

(Ugh, the pressure!)

8.   You look so Italian?

(Grazie mille!)

9.   Your mind is a thing of beauty.

(It is, isn’t it?)

10.               You were right.

(Told you so)


Soul Mates-The Pot, The Kettle, The Pea, the Pod and a Cat.


 Ah, soul mates the stuff chick flicks and Hallmark cards are made of. But who are these elusive creatures really?  I don’t necessarily equate a soul mate with hearts and flowers or sexual chemistry.  In my opinion, soul mates come in many forms friends, parents, siblings, lovers, chocolate, my cat. 😉


  Soul mates come into our lives to teach us something.how to laugh, think, feel, be, love and often how to let go. They enable us to grow emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.

 These relationships are intense, magnetic,  inexplicable, mystical and based on a strong connection.  I can count my soul mates on one hand. But I’m an introvert, and although I love humanity, I’m not often that crazy about people. It takes a lot for me to genuinely bond, but when I do it sticks. I’m grateful for my soul mates and the lessons learned.  They’ve enriched my soul and left indelible impressions on my heart.


  Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love describes the soul mate relationship best…


“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”


“Life is a journey, Frannie darling,” Feagan had once told me. “Choose well those with whom you travel.”
As always, I’ve followed Feagan’s counsel.”
Lorraine Heath, Surrender to the Devil

30 Things Every Man Should Know. …at least according to ME

1. You look hot in a plain white t-shirt and jeans. Plaids and flannels too.

2. You look equally adorable in a suit and tie (every girl’s crazy about a sharp dressed man) Add a vest and holy hotness moly.

3. Use tools…don’t be a tool.

4. The clothes hamper exist for a reason. Use it

5. “You look fine” is never the appropriate response.

6. Being protective is sweet. Being possessive is creepy.

7. On the flip side being indifferent is never OK. EVER!

8. asking for directions doesn’t make you less of a man.  

9. Stimulate our minds. It’s the quickest way to our hearts

10.  Stimulate our bodies too. Sometimes we like to be taken (note, not out, more like against a wall, on a desk, in a car) etc.

11. it’s your presence we crave, not presents.

12. Chocolate is always the answer.

13. If you spend more time in front of the mirror than we do. We’re going to have an issue.

14. No skinny jeans. EVER!

15. Any idiot can buy flowers. Try picking them.

16. Brains and brawn are a winning combination.

17. But brawn without brains will only get you so far.

18. Confidence is sexy. Arrogance is a turn off.

19. Humility goes a long way.

20. Our relationship with clothes and shoes are none of your business.

21. A five o’clock shadow is a thing of beauty.  

22. We remember EVERYTHING!

 23. We are worthy of respect. We should never have to demand it.

24.  back your words up with actions.

25. You look cute with your hands on your hip.  Work it gurl.

 26. Love us…love our mothers.

27. Dance with us in the rain, serenade us, recite us poetry, open doors for us.

28. Cologne is a must..Just don’t bathe in it.

29. It’s OK if you don’t understand us.

30.Need us, want us. Love us. Accept us, sheltered us. Believe in us and we’ll respond in kind.