Let’s talk about adversity. Getting personal. (long)

Let me tell you about trials and tribulations. This girl has been through some things. I’ve developed a few annoying habits because of said things, but talking about myself in the third person shouldn’t become one of them. 😜 Here’s a bit of my adversity story. We all have them.

Just like everyone, I’ve had my fair share of adversity. I was born premature and due to complications this caused irreparable damage to my optic nerve. Translation, my eyesight is beyond screwed. I’m legally blind and as a child, I struggled with epilepsy and a condition called Chorea. On top of that, I was a shy kid who was overly emotional and cried a lot. It made me a great target for bullying. Thankfully, I came into my own during my university years. As an adult, I’ve battled depression and anxiety. The latter has been debilitating on occasion, but these days, I’m more equipped to survive. My emotional fortitude has grown stronger with each trial. I’m blessed with a wonderful support system. More on them later, but these people make all the difference.

Adversity has been a wonderful teacher. It has taught me to believe in myself, to fear change less, and to step out of my comfort zone. I never want to become stagnant, constantly stuck in a quagmire of my own making. I always want to have something new to share, to never stop evolving as a person. There’s been times when I wanted to let my disabilities, or past hurts hold me back, but I’ve always persevered. Partly, because I’ve realized that coping means looking beyond my own worries, and concentrating on helping people with problems much greater than my own. The world is so much bigger than our own issues. Focusing on helping others is a great way to get out of our heads and be productive. It also makes one less of a selfish, self obsessed Mofo. Ha! Trisha Paytas, I’m looking at you.

Despite limitations and setbacks, I’ve written two books (with another on the way). I’ve got a Masters degree in Criminology, and research work that keeps me busy. I have a partner who loves me, and after a few uncertain years, a relationship that is thriving and stronger than ever. I am so grateful for his strength and spirit. He hit midlife crisis mode for a minute and we grew apart. It was a strange time for both of us, and could have ended in a few different ways. We honestly were on separate paths for awhile, but somehow managed to find our way back to the one we knew by heart. We married so young, just a couple of college kids, but thankfully, those two former kids are closer than ever now. He’s the responsible, go getting, charming, witty, loving man I met all those years ago, He makes me laugh, looks out for me, and puts up with all my quirks. We’re lucky to have each other. It’s wonderful to have someone to walk through life with, who will hold my hand during hard times.

We also have two amazing girls, (more young women now) not to mention, the best and brightest feline kind has to offer. Tucker says, “hi”. (Little Georgie could use your prayers, but that’s a story for another time). Just send out positive vibes into the universe for him, please) Very soon we will either be building or buying our fourth house together. Life truly is beautiful (even during trying times).

I’m grateful for the people who have come and gone, and the people who persist and remain. Each experience has taught me so much. I’m thankful for every moment, and each memory that has become a part of who I am, and who I will be. Sometimes unanswered prayers become our saving grace. If only we could see that in the moment, imagine how much suffering we could avoid. I really believe everything happens for a reason, (even the things that almost break you) that every journey takes us where we’re suppose to be. I’m thankful that every hurt (eventually) has brought about a renewal of spirit and desire to never repeat past mistakes. I’ll always miss and remember fondly those temporal people who helped me grow and shared their lives with me for a season. They were just what I needed for that moment and time. Lessons they taught me won’t be forgotten.

However, it’s the ones who are still here that get my unwavering affection and undying loyalty. I am a ride or die person, and I give my all to the people I love. My goal is to make their lives better and show up everyday. I try to put out sweetness and light, but some days it’s more snark and sassiness. marked by my homespun quirky awkwardness. I’m down with anyone who appreciate nerdy things, history, art, nature, music, antiques, traveling, Netflix, reading endlessly, the joys of being utterly silly, the comfort of yummy food, and talking about the most random things.

Having said all that, we’ve come to the purpose of this post. I know. I’m such a chatterbox on occasion. No! Really! 😜 I’d like to share some of my favorite quotes on adversity. I hope that if you’re struggling that these will lift you up. Sending lots of love to everyone. Thank you for reading. ❤️

“You should never view your challenges as a disadvantage. Instead, it’s important for you to understand that your experience facing and overcoming adversity is actually one of your biggest advantages.”

Michelle Obama

“We don’t develop courage by being happy every day. We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.”

Barbara De Angelis

“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.”

Napoleon Hill

Move Along

31 thoughts on “Let’s talk about adversity. Getting personal. (long)

  1. We are always on this journey, evolving every step of the way. That you were born from adversity amnd have had to overcome so much, only emphasizes your true beauty and purpose. You could have quit so long ago and you didn’t. You are an inspiration to so many.
    A stunnind warrior, fighter, mother, wife, and brilliant poet.

    My heart longs to embrace you. Stay beautiful and brilliant. Let you light always glow over all around you.

    Since I started blogging, you have always been a person I admired for so many reasons.
    This post, well it overwhelmed me, and only makes me admire you more.

    Be happy. Be well. xoxoxo

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    1. You are always so sweet to me. I appreciate you very much. I know that you’ve had your own fair share of adversities. I think it’s what makes us kindred spirits in a way. It’s wonderful how you always bring positivity and goodness to all who know you.. I’m sending lots of light and love to you too. Thanks for your friendship and support. 💕💕💕

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  2. Tosha, I enjoy both your poems/music and many of your blog posts. This post was very brave and it was wonderful to learn more about you. I never knew you had such challenges such as blindness along w/ both depression/anxiety too. I’m sorry you suffer through this, but am so glad you have a wonderful family/partner and have triumphed despite your struggles. You’re an amazing lady and for me, reading your story gave me hope for struggles in my own life too. Cheers girl! Keep at it!

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    1. Thanks so much. You’re always so kind. I’ve really been blessed in my life, so I can’t complain too much. There’s definitely been more highs and lows. I’m sending lots of love your way and hoping you’re having the best of days.

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  3. Thank you for sharing your story. You are amazing, and your hunny is blessed, and it is great to have that support. I have been battered most of my life, and I have had very little support. Most of my support comes from people far away from me. I go forward as much as I can in spite of people beating me back. I hope that you continue on.

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    1. It seems like adversity has only made you stronger and kinder. I’m sorry you don’t have a lot of support near by, but I’m glad you get encouragement in some form. You also seem to find a lot of solace in nature and traveling. You’re a good person with a genuine heart. Happy to know you. 💕

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